How do I deal with an alcoholic husband?

I have been married for 6 years. My husband thinks there is nothing wrong for him to go out to the bar with his ';buddies'; and leave me at home to care for the children. Alot of times he won't tell me where he's been or who he has been with. ( I have caought him with another woman before.) He dosen't work a full time job and does ';odd'; jobs to make money.I am recently unemployed and only bringing in unemployment.. How can I get him to help me out more at home and not go to the bars?? any advise would be greatly appreciated...How do I deal with an alcoholic husband?
he needs to first acknowledge that he even has a problem. then he needs to go to AA meetings and meet fellow alcoholics who UNDERSTAND where he is coming from.

YOU need to attend ALANON meetings ~ it's a support group for family and loved ones for alcoholics. they will help you understand how to deal with your situation...in alot of times, you are what they call an ENABLER ~ he keeps doing what he's doing, because HE CAN! Alanon can help you figure out positive ways to deal with it. Good luck. hopefully, your husband and you will find some serenity without alcohol.How do I deal with an alcoholic husband?
set him straight and don't give him too much time,if he fails leave him so you can enjoy life as you deserve.
Do yourself a favor and Get Rid of Him, written by Joyce Vedal, PhD.



If she doesn't give you the guts to do it for you and the children then leave it sitting out where he can see it. Oh, and start stashing some money away. Sell stuff, get papers in order.



He's not going to stop until something bad happens.
Give him a choice... You or the bars and the booze... Tell him to get a job number one.... If you have caught him with other women why are you still there anyway.... Pick your self up..... Move on.... You can do better...
Sorry to say, but from my past experience. its time to tell him to hit the road. First, try and talk him into getting some kind of AA or couples counseling. if he doesn't want to try either of those, he is a lost cause. Oh, and once a cheater, always a cheater. (that is if he can find someone that wants to screw his sorry drunken behind).
Dear, all I can say is that I would get rid of this loser before he brings home an STD and YOU get it. He sounds like a total jerk and a loser and I think you need to get out of this mess NOW!
you need to start by going to Al-Anon... it will help you realize the problem, (well, with the alcohol), that your husband has... and then, you need to decide, do you want to be married to a CHEATER... which he Obviously IS... think it over carefully... your kids will mimic you and your husband when they are older...
Speaking from personal experience, he will not change until you force him to. He's getting too many rewards from keeping things the way they are. Leave him and make him seek help for his alcoholism before you consider taking him back. Coming from someone that grew up in a home with an alcoholic father, your children will thank you.
leave him he is only dragging you down to a lower level

where he believes he wants to be you will never change his

thinking if he chooses to live his life in a bottle where his

happiness will always come first
You really don't make any allocations that he's coming home drunk or any related alcoholic issues...which makes me wonder maybe he has other interests while at the bar....If he indeed does have a drinking problem you need to address this through conversation, be supportive and seek outside help...Alcoholics Anonymous is a start...Be prepared for him to lash out at you and try and make you out to be the bad guy...
I don't believe in divorce, but in some cases it is better than staying together. I think this is one of those cases where you would be better to move on before you catch something or he kills you and your children. Sorry, but I care! Be brave and find away to get another life.
Was he a drinker when you were newly married? When you are affected by an alcoholic, you have a tendency to allow him to act this way. I'm not sure I'd be so kind to him after knowing he was with another woman. (that's just me) So, he doesn't work full time and take care of family and I assume the money he gets he spends on alcohol? Do you think this is someone that is worried about his family? He knows by being in the bar is wrong, but he made his choice and I have a feeling unless you take drastic measures, he will continue this lifestyle. Let him know you wont enable his behavior anymore (tough love) and maybe you can separate for awhile until he starts an AA meeting and realizes what he's been taking away from your family. I hope things work out for you because Ive been there. Good luck!
I don't know how many children you have, but it looks to me like you can do good/bad all by yourself. You might also suggest AA. I wouldn't give him an ultimatum because that puts most people on the defensive. However, I would suggest, that you let him know what YOU plan to do, if things don't change. As a man I realize that men do a lot of crazy s.... But what amazes me are the women who bit.. about it, but continue to let us do it. If I know I can get away with something, 'why should I change??? It looks to me like he's got it made. I'm jealous!!! You're paying most of the bills, taking care of the kids, buying food etc.. Damn, I wanna to marry you myself!!! Ha-ha. Anyway, you have to decide when you've had enough, but for now you feel like a victim. You make up for the attention your husband doesn't give you, in exchange for the attention you get from people that feel sorry for you. (Yahoo answers etc.). Don't lie, tell the truth! You know you like people feeling sorry for you! What you need to remember is, that some men like a little challenge every now and then. It keeps things exciting. Besides that, I enjoy the make-up sex. Oops! I'm being naughty. (Sorry, my momma told me about that). Anyway, call Dr. Phil and tell him I sent you. He'll take it from here.... LOL
if he is doing all that to you i think you let him go he is not working all the time looks like you are in 6 years and what did you get out of it 6 years THINK HARD ON THIS good luck to you