What do i do?( to help her stop drinking)?

so my boyfriend of 3yr's mom is an alcoholic.. she is an amazing person, nice, giving, friendly(honestly will talk to anyone), Curtious, truthful (even when it hurts), etc. but has had a troubleling past with abuse physical and mentally which lead her to drinking... last labor day.. she said that she that was the last day of her drinking... she was gonna cut cold turkey, she already talked to her dr. and was going to group/one on one meetings to help her.. well after a month we found out she was sneaking beer when no one was home... or when she thought we weren't looking.. she hid them in her bathroom, and drank from a Styrofoam cup w/ lid (we couldn't see threw).. then on her birthday.. yestureday... she said that she wanted to have a few drinks b/c it was her b-day (she doesnt know that we know she drank before this day) so she bought the beer... not 1 six pack but 2 wich means she planed on drinking 12... wich up set me b/c i hate to see her put her self threw this.. she did so well and now it is back to step one... i understand her relapsing is normal and i knew it would happen.. but after watching her take beer after beer yesterday... and then seeing her pass out while we were watching a movie... i heard her opening a can in her bedroom today :( it tear's me up inside and i know it is hurting her kids.. they dont know she drank to day tho.. by bf was at work and i took the brothers out to the store and stuff... i wrote her a letter... just telling her that were here for her. and that it hurts me that she is sneaking around and lieing to us.../ not trusting us so she can confide in us... and let her know how much it is hurting the boys... she is not a bad drunk as in violent.. she is annoying but not bad... our main concern is that it is killing her.. u can see it...taking a toll on her... so i just need some suggestions/ advise...

have u ever had to deal with an alcoholic or were you one...

how'd u get over it?/ deal with it?What do i do?( to help her stop drinking)?
Alcoholics ARE some of the most lovable, funny and sensative people I know...still drinking or sober!



What YOU need to do is go to Alanon and learn about the three C's: (1)You didn't cause it, (2)you can't cure it and (3)you can't control it. If you really want to help this woman, contact a Treatment Center about doing an Intervention. I have been sober for almost 23 yrs. and it's the greatest gift I've EVER received. I attend AA meetings regularly.My entire life has changed and I finally like myself in my own skin! It is a miracle working program. Alcoholism is about the pain and the thinking, NOT the drinking. This is why AA has saved so many lives and transformed people.



I will be praying for a miracle for your BF's mother!What do i do?( to help her stop drinking)?
Stop giving her alcohol. BUT NOT AT ONCE. Make sure it's stopped progressively. Like cut down the amount slowly. a bottle one day.. few days later 3/4 of a bottle. few days later. 1/2 a bottle. then 1/4.. Then taa daa. :D



Let the mind have time to understand a change
Let her drink, she'll stop when she get ready, you cant make someone stop drinking you can only tell them whats in your opinion best for them and leave it at that and just hope she'll make the desicion to do what you think is the right thing.