Dealing with an alcoholic mother/wife.?

Well I am 22 years old in college, and in the past 3 years or so my mother has developed into a really bad alcoholic. It has progressed from regular drinking, to every night, then every afternoon to night, and eventually to all day, every night for about half of a week. She lives alone with my dad, who works all day then comes home to her being wasted out of her mind every day. Obviously I feel horrible for my father, and I would like to know how people deal with this stuff. My dad is a very non-confrontational person and pushed her a little bit to stop, but she got absolutely furious when he asked her to stop. So after that he layed off of her because of things he had read, and he is basically just standing by hoping she will check into rehab sometime soon. She has been toying with the idea for the last 3 months or so, but always backs out. It seems to me, there is no way she is going to commit with the idea of rehab. I know everyone says you aren't supposed to push alcoholics into quitting, but my father is just so non-confrontational I am really wondering if that is best. My dad obviously has to love her, because she has just been terrible to him. He goes to work, pays all the bills and goes shopping for food...all the while she is just sitting at home drinking. She has tried to quit on her own and made it about half a day until she got very sick. So what to do? Push her into rehab? Or just let the alcoholism take it's course and hope she goes into rehab soon?

She thinks she is dying, and she might be right. She has bruises all over, the few hours of the week she is half sober, I can tell her liver is causing excruiciating pain. She has really hit rock bottom in my opinion, and I don't think she will live 5 more years if she doesn't quit soon.Dealing with an alcoholic mother/wife.?
Please look into Ala-non they are a group for people dealing with loved ones who are alcoholics. They are pretty much anywhere there is AA.



www.alanon.org.za



They will help you more than anyone here will. She needs treatment but it will only help if SHE wants it. They can help you with this. You need to help your mom realize her issues here. So she will want to get the help.



You really dont want something to happen to her and then regret not doing anything. Even if you try and it doesnt help you can at least say you did try.Dealing with an alcoholic mother/wife.?
Give it time. The alcohol will rot her liver.
You and your father need to look up AL-Anon to learn how to deal with your mother. They will have suggestions on what to do. Good Luck
You can take her to a hospital and have them detox her. Do it when shes drunk so she doesn't fight much.



You can get an ambulance to taker her in and they will put her on fluids and medication so she doesn't go into a seizure from withdrawal. They will keep her there until she stops going through withdrawal and give her the option to go to rehab.
Why not call AA and see what they say is best. They deal with this every day.



Sorry to your family
I would get everyone who cares about her together and do an intervention. She needs to be under medical supervision when she stops drinking to make her withdrawal easier and most important safe. Talk to a doctor, a rehab, or at least AA about this since they would know what to do. She is at great risk to developing cirrhosis of the liver if she continues to drink. After she dries out physically, I believe going to an in house program that lasts for several months might be a good start for her to learn how to live life without drinking. You will need to check into these ahead of time (before the intervention) so you all have a plan for her to get help. Do it just like they do it on that TV show Intervention.



Your father needs to speak up at the intervention and tell her that he will not help her kill herself anymore. The same goes for you. Just letting the alcoholism take its course is like saying let cancer take its course. Both can end in death. I would not give her one dime of money to buy even one drink. The money train would stop. Sitting around boozing it up all day while dad goes out to work and pay for the booze is ridiculous. If she did manage to get booze in the house, I would spill it out right in front of her no matter how much she yells. If she gets physical, I would call the cops on her. Sitting in the slammer for a night might make her take notice of what she is doing to her family. Everything you and your father do to enable her must stop.