Is there anyone who knows how to deal with a partner who has a drinking problem?

I'm only 24 yrs old and my boyfriend is also 24 and we have 2 daughters. We have been together for 6 yrs. This has been an on going problem since he was like15. He just recently quit on his own for a year and 1/2. He almost like a binge drinker. He drinks in excess and has many different moods he can get in. He has smashed alot of my belongings in the past (before the children). He blacks out. Well I could just go on with story after story. My parents are alcoholics so I dealt with this my whole life. I don't drink and have no social life. I don't work since the new baby. I guess I just need answers or opinions. Thanks.Is there anyone who knows how to deal with a partner who has a drinking problem?
if he has no desire to quit, leave. if he's not trying constantly, leave. if you offer im ways to help him and he refuses, leave. let him see what's life like without you n his girls. that can be motivation enough for him to clean up his act or that could be the very thing to break him down. but that's less likely. you need no one holding you down with something that's not ur fault. you've been around alcoholism all your life. i think it's time for you to see what else life has to offer besides alcholocs. you don't want you're daughters growing up with drinking problems or for them to think it's okay to drink or put up with drunken people. they deserve better. let them grow up thinking they are princesses awho deserve nothing but the best and that includes the best of their father.Is there anyone who knows how to deal with a partner who has a drinking problem?
what ya need first is a hug ..a big hug too!! now youve tolerated this lifestylf for all these years dearie..and it probablys tarted out as a mild argument then progressed to him breaking your things etc..well you may not want to but put your foot down this time and tell him..if he drinks again your taking the children and leaving..sweetie ya said ya grew up around alchoholics...and im sure that wasnt a pleasant life either..so ask yourself..do u want your children to grow up thinking that is normal behavior?? do u want your children to think its ok for men to ask like this?? and how much more damage an this guy do to you as well?? and look back through the years of you growing up and think about what your children are going through..hugsss and sweeite tell him your going to leave if he drinks againa dn then if he does i guess his alchohol was more important than you and the kids..and sweetie leave.... for the safty of you and your children and your welbeing..hugsss an GOD bless
you cant do anything to make him stop drinking. he is going to have to WANT to stop drinking. Putting rules against him or having consequences will only piss him off. Dont tell him what your gonna do, just do it. If you are going to leave him if he drinks again, dont tell him. The next time he drinks just leave him. Maybe that will give him some incentive to WANT to stop drinking.
first of all you do not have to put up with that. a drunk will not change for anyone. he has to make the decision's to stop. if you leave he might realize that he lost his family and he may change but i would not count on it. you need to get out before he hurts you or the kids. there are shelters you can go to where he can not find you until you see that he is getting help. you have to do what is best for you and your kids future. good luck and stay safe.
and why are you staying with this guy? do you not deserve better?
I would tell him that if he dose not stop you and the babys will leave!! i have gone through this!! You are only hurting yourself and your childern by staying! you never know hun you might very well be the one that he hurts!! he is already doing it in certin ways!!! GIVE HIM A REALITY CHECK
oh darling this sounds so bad i cant belive you put up with him like this. i would see a counciler or a welfare officer, and just leave him let that be his wake up call. his future doesnt look good thing of the example hes setting for your girls, what if one day he accidently hurts them? or leaves drugs lying around while he's passed out and the kids get their hands on them. oh no please leave all t he endless possiblities of harm this man can cause to yous phycally and mentally, please at the moment hes not wanting to stop drinking, just leave give him an ultimatium, and if he doesnt stop then you know hes not worth it.