How have you personally dealt with the ';alcoholic'; in your life?

For me, I would always do the wrong things...like picking up after him(my last ex-boyfriend) and try to lecture him..etc..which never ever worked..and or hide all of the beer that he would buy and or his cigarettes...of course that didn't help either! What have you done to try to ';help' your ';alchie';?

Did it ever help or improve,or did you find yourself with a ton of resentment and hatred in your heart and soul?

what finally happened?

(I am no longer with this person, Thank God!!!)How have you personally dealt with the ';alcoholic'; in your life?
I have never had an alcoholic in my life.How have you personally dealt with the ';alcoholic'; in your life?
My dad's an alcoholic......he has been for years....he would always say to me ';go grab me a beer from the fridge'; ugh i hated it.thank god i never have to be around him no more!(he lives far away kinda).
dump him then give me the numbers you have for aa because i need them hiiiiicuuup

';how dry i am';';how dry i am '; nobody knows how dry i am martini anyonE!!!LOLOLOLOL!!!
I've delt with many alcoholics in my life. Most of my friends are as am I. I am what is called a ';dry'; alcoholic, meaning I don't drink anymore.



The best way to help an alcoholic is to let them know you care and provide a listening ear. Tell them, calmly, that you will help them overcome their battle when THEY are ready. Let them know you are there for them, but will not aide them.



You cannot help anyone who doesn't want to be helped. If someone isn't ready to quit, they won't no matter how hard you try to force them.
As a recovering alcoholic with 6 years sobriety, i think your friend has to pass the first step, of the 12 step program, and ';admit that we are powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable';



Some call this hitting rock bottom, but from experience, you have to finally come to the conclusion that you just can't take the pain anymore.

as for friends, well, you can intoduce ideas about A.A. meetings etc., but only he/she can make the decision to turn around their lives.



It's a disease, millions have it, and it is chronic and progressive, until a recovery program is put into action.



Only he/she can get it started, and eventually follow the steps.



Buy the big blue book we call it, at an A.A. bookstore and read the section on a';message to the family';



This should help.



I hope you friend seeks help.



If I didn't 8 years ago i wouldn't be writing this. I ,d be dead, .



Will
If you are no longer with him WTF!!! being concerned about it... are you feeling guilty??? because you have left him with his problems and you had regret thinking that you haven't done enough for you to sleep well ... just don't care about alcoholic people they like to feel this way and are auto destroying themselves you can't help someone who don't care about his situation do yourself a favor and stay away from alcoholic people so that you can live without regrets ...
Do you know why you dated this person? Is this a pattern for you?

Unrecovered alcoholics are terrible to try to be in a relationship with, they are VERY selfish and driven by their impulses relentlessly.



There are support groups out there that may be of great help to you-- Adult Children of Alcoholics, Codependents Anonymous, Alanon. These groups help people like yourself get support and help you to stay away from unhealthy people.



I am sorry you were hurt by this person.



I have been both the codependent and then later in life became an alcoholic myself. I have to deal with both tendencies. I wouldn't wish this lot on anyone. It is a lot to deal with.



I am glad you got away from him. That is a really hard step! If you learn about it and work a program around codependecy issues (why you attracted this person in the first place) you never have to deal with this type of pain again. This does not you will not encounter pain in your future relationships but it will not be the same person with a different face over and over again.



Good luck to you!
The best thing you can do for an alcoholic is leave them alone. That may sound cold, but it works. The more you stay on their ***, the more it encourages them. They use it as an excuse to keep drinking. They begin to notice that no one is around and, little by little, they realize that alcohol is the problem. Don't forget about them once this sets in. Acknowledge the fact that they are aware, but don't expect apologies just yet. They haven't quite realized the effects their drinking has had on everyone else. When they do, it will come natural to make amends. This doesn't mean you are responsible for their recovery. Keep living your life. They have to accept their mistakes and learn from them. Granted, it would be up to you to trust and forgive this person.
* how i tried to look after him when he was on a binge drinking session it began to happen more and more.bottle after bottle of brandy/whisky.he didnt care.he got violent .didnt belive he had a problem.thought he was mr nice guy when he was just mr always right guy.left him in the end .happy now and with the right guy.the mr always right guy is still on his own.
A guy that lived above me was an alcoholic. Bad. Called the cops reporting an imminent danger to himself (he was no longer eating, had spent all his money on alcohol). He had to sit in jail until he sobered up. Called his parents, they came and picked him up, moved him out of his apt, got him into a rehab clinic back in his hometown.



He was going to die by himself.