HELP! I hate my husband's friends!?

He wants to spend nearly every Sunday to watch ballgames etc with them but rarely takes me anywhere (we have no kids). These 2 jerks deal drugs, are alcoholics and also sell stolen goods. I know I can't pick his friends and have been careful with my words as I have a feeling the more I say the more he will run to them. I've even thought of anonomously calling the police on them but he'd figure out it was me and they'd get out sooner or later anyway. What does he have in common with them? He likes some of the 'stuff' they sell!





How do I get him to ditch these losers!!??HELP! I hate my husband's friends!?
It's ultimatum time. Tell him it's your friends or me. He needs to choose because he can't have both.HELP! I hate my husband's friends!?
It's time for him to grow up. He is married now and should consider what could happen if he was caught with them. Tell him it's them or you.
Ditch your husband, tell him you have no room in your life for losers.
a man should never EVER have to choose between his significant other and his friends and the same goes for a woman. when you meet that person, you know the deal. if you do not like the people he associates with then you have the right to let him know but you do not have the right to give him an ultimatum. i suppose you could but more than likely your the one who is going to be the sorry person in the relationship.





it is extremely unfortunate, the circumstances surrounding who these people are, but nevertheless, this shouldve been tackled before you said ';I DO';...if this was such a huge issue, it was something that needed to come to the forefront before you decided to spend the rest of your life with him through good times and in bad, even if the bad is dealing with his friends. you decided ultimately to associate with them before you were married so its difficult to change your mind now. not trying to be rude but its just the unfortunate reality of the situation you are in...good luck with whatever you choose to do!
Time for husband to man-up, friends or me (wifey) you choose! There's a saying I heard once, it goes ';Tell me who your friends are %26amp; I'll tell you what type of person you are';.
yeah I agree ! Get rid of those losers! I just was very firm and said I wont take care of any other guys and I dont want them in the house.Im not serving beer to them .Go ahead make my day! Ill hit the road jack!
Give him the ultimatum!! Them, or you!!
you need to keep that crap out of your house you could go to jail for having it there
Did he have these friends before you met him and before you got married? Did he spend nearly ever Sunday with them before you got married? If so did you expect him to change once you got married?





Women always expect men to change after marriage and men never expect to have to change. This is one big reason marriages always fail, a mismatch of expectations.





If all this stuff you are complaining about went on before the marriage, then you have a weak case. You are going to have to tell him straight up to pick between you his wife and these loosers. If he picks them, then you learned a valuable lesson.





If he just started doing this stuff after the marriage, then he is the looser and you tell him to stop or you are leaving him.





Okay, let's suppose they are dealign drugs and he gets caught with them. Guess what, the cops are going to take all his stuff too, if they think it was bought with drug money, maybe even your stuff and your house. You are living a dangerous life, fix it or get out.
Try by honoring and respecting him.
if you want to be with him you have to accept the fact that these are his friends, the only way he will learn is on his own. hopefully he won't get busted when his friends do. If you make him choose will you lose???
You are talking about criminals here, not just a one time ofender type of deal.......I think your hubby may have more in common with them than you think......you need to explain to him that they need to go......period. You can get in a whole lot of trouble knowing all this and can also go to jail for it....so can your husband.....this is not good.....I know it is easier said than done but I think is time to tell hubby its me or them...good luck....JMO
well, drinking alchohol, watching ballgames and dealing drugs? isn't it enough in common? i wonder what does he have in common with u?
This is not going to work. He's not going to stop and you cannot continue to live like that. Maybe try moving out for awhile. If he truly loves you and wants to continue building a life with you, he will get his priorities straight and do what is right. If you tell him you are leaving unless cleans up his act he won't believe you. He needs to see some action on your part.





Good luck, Honey! Do what is right for you and don't sacrifice any more of your precious time on someone who doesn't care about your happiness, safety, and well being.
...he's getting ';something'; from them he doesn't get from you that is more thriling, exciting or something... it's the ';pay off'; in his life... you can't change him but you can change you... make it more wonderful to be with you then the guys... if you can't... learn to love the guys too or...get on wth you life...


(sorry but that's the way it is with some men)........
just call the cops on them...then tell him u arent busting his butt out of jail until he says good bye to his friends. or just get him some counsling.
If you turned in his buddies just because you obviously dont offer him enough to keep himi satisfied, then I hope they come after you when they get out. What they do (or what you think they do) is none of your business. Your man chooses them over you, becuz you must not offer what he wants. He must like their ';stuff'; more than your ';stuff'; or don't you think he would be around more?
Are you talking about your husband or your child?





He is an adult - he can make his own choices! AND, so can you!!! Chances are if he is hanging out with these guys he has things in common with them! HELLO!!





You could try talking to him respectfully and telling him your concerns, but you cannot control what he does! If he isn't willing to try to understand your concerns, then you need to make a choice! Either you can live with it or you can't, and if you can't then you move on! Trust me, if you try to change him, you will find yourself still dealing with the same issues 10 - 15 years from now.





You can't get him to ditch these guys! You need to tell him that you love him and that you are concerned about him! That ';guilty by association'; thing might just bite him in the butt if he doesn't get smart! Tell him how you feel, and then explain to him that you have to make good choices for your life! If he want to continue hanging with these guys, let him - just don't allow yourself to be dragged down with them!!!
I am sorry to hear this. It is tough on you and it will really make you go to unpleasant places.





Unfortunately, you are married.


It would be so much easier if he were just a boyfriend.





Still....he sounds immature. I think you are right.


And I don't think he will dump his friends...SORRY.





You will have to make a decision.....He won't.