How do you tell a loved one they are an alcoholic?

with out causing and all out family war, and how do you help them, with out making a big deal about hte situation (might scare her away from trying to stop)?How do you tell a loved one they are an alcoholic?
It's really important that you are there for her. The number one reason why people stay sober is that they want to and they have the support of loved ones like you. I am an alcoholic, I have been sober almost six years. I am also an Addictions Therapist, I work with veterans. I got sober because I started hanging around people who were in Alcoholics Anonymous. I saw how happy they were with their lives and I wanted that too. Maybe you can tell her your concerns and offer to go to a meeting with her. There are open meetings that family and friends can go to and then there are closed meetings that are just for alcoholics.



If you think she will be upset if you approach her then approach her alone. If you think she is willing to hear this from the whole family then you can plan an intervention. Whichever way you choose to approach her make sure that you are using a lot of ';I feel'; statements and not ';you you you'; statements. Because you don't want to personally attack her. Listed below are questions she can ask herself. Good luck.



Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can.





Yes or No:



1. Do you lose time from work due to drinking?



2. Is drinking making your home life unhappy?



3. Do you drink because you are shy with other people?



4. Is drinking affecting your reputation?



5. Have you ever felt remorse after drinking?



6. Have you had financial difficulties as a result of your drinking?



7. Do you turn to inferior companions and environments when drinking?



8. Does your drinking make you careless of your family's welfare?



9. Has your ambition decreased since you began drinking?



10. Do you crave a drink at a definite time daily?



11. Do you want a drink the next morning?



12. Does drinking cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?



13. Has your efficiency decreased since you began drinking?



14. Is drinking jeopardizing your job or business?



15. Do you drink to escape from worries or troubles?



16. Do you drink alone?



17. Have you ever had a loss of memory as a result of drinking?



18. Has your physician ever treated you for drinking?



19. Do you drink to build up your self-confidence?



20. Have you ever been to a hospital or institution as a result of your drinking?



(A 20 question test from the most prestigious health care facility in the world--Johns Hopkins Hospital)How do you tell a loved one they are an alcoholic?
when they start loving alcohol more than you.

I have family died because of that.
First sit down and talk with them, maybe over a few bottles of scotch
There's no easy or polite way to do it. Go to a place where everyone involved will be comfortable. Explain that you are not meaning to inflict pain on the person, but you love them very much and want them to get help.
Trust me. This person knows they are an alcoholic. You need to love them from a distance. When they get drunk, simply tell them that you can't be around them when they are like that and walk away. For your own sanity. You can't get the person help if they don't want to stop. You can't threaten them or force them. Even if you could get them admitted to a hospital for a little while, do you think they will respond well to that? No. They will be mad as hell.
Intervention
You go up to them and you go 'What the f***ing hell is wrong with you Asshole!?!??!? Do you WANT to die?



Easy as that!
they will have to go into treatment probly at a mental hospital. basically just tell them. i have had a lot of help but i drink i hope she makes it - i won't