I am 35 weeks pregnant and my husband has been put into a mental institution. Is there hope?

My husband used to be a real sweetie when I met him three years ago, but little by little all these things came out into the open. First, I found out that he was an alcoholic, then after dealing with that, it is though enough on its own, because he behaves totally erratic when he drinks. He cannot handle stress one bit. He is a medical resident and has already been kicked out of his first residency program. Back in March, when this happened, he completely lost it and went driving under the influence of Ambien and Vodka and got into two car accidents. He tried to jump out a window and smashed his head through a windshield. To top it off, he started screaming at me at target and take fun of me because I was constipated in front of a whole bunch of customers. All this while I was pregnant. He was on bipolar medication since March, but none of it worked and today he went off the deep end again collapsed after driving under the influence of who knows what and was put back into the mental institution. They are not quite sure if he truly is bipolar, because he pretty much only has the characteristics when he is under the influence of something. He just cannot handle stress at all. He said that he was not happy about the baby because he is not even sure how he will support her since he might not have a job anymore. All of this is causing so much distress to me. I had ZERO support from him throughout this pregnancy. I feel so lonely and hopeless and have done so much to better his situation but he is back on square on. Can he be helped?I am 35 weeks pregnant and my husband has been put into a mental institution. Is there hope?
Seek the wisdom of Robby the Sheath. He might be able to help, but you are in a pickle.I am 35 weeks pregnant and my husband has been put into a mental institution. Is there hope?
There is only hope. But honestly if this has been happening the whole time you've been with him, I wouldnt trust him with my children, especially in a car, and at a BBQ party, or even better yet treating me at the hospital!!

I would leave, live with your parents or what have you...at least until he's clean and a calm mature adult.
He needs three things to happen.



To find God.

To stay on his meds.

To quit drinking.



He will need all three to have any sucessful relationships.



God luck %26amp; God bless
you knew all of this and still stayed? and now you are having his child?



I do not feel 1 bit sorry for you... you knew he was crazy... and you still decided to stay and conceive a child who will probably be bi polar as well.. its genetic... now the child is going to suffer!





This is what happens when you are caught up in the moment, or needy!



Focus on your child... you or your Boyfriend don't matter anymore.. only the well being of that baby!
you need to stay away from him, at least until he's better. it is not healthy for you or your baby. maybe he needs to go to rehab for drug and alcohol addictions. live with your parents for a while, or maybe a trustworthy and responsible friend just in case he tries to harm you or your child when he is ';under the influence.';
Whether or not he can be helped is irrelevant. It's not your job to help him, nor are you qualified. Just about any one thing he has done since you've known him (that you mentioned in your question) is enough to motivate any normal person to GET OUT. This is what I call the ';Oprah Situation.'; It's usually females facing a ridiculous man, wondering how they can save the relationship. When you see another girl doing what you are now doing, it's easy for you to realize the folly in the situation. I can hear you now- 'girl, you gotta get OUT!'



Well, we're all outside looking in, and we're not tied up emotionally with this freakin IDIOT. Leave this man. NOW. Once he's fixed, great. Let him prove it, then you can start back over at the beginning. Anything else will fail- it's classic emotional baggage. Just the fact that you have to ask the question proves it.



People don't come here to vent, or to get that nice, understanding pat on the back from girlfriends saying, 'girl, I know how you feel.' Not here. We're giving you truth. Hard answers. Use them to give yourself resolve and do what you have to do. You lived your whole freakin life without this man in it. How is it you can't seem to do it now?
You do need to get counseling for yourself as this is a mental and physical drain especially in your condition. Also try to find support groups whether on-line or through the Behavioral Health Dept in your area. I will list some sites to check out. Do not isolate yourself as that can make the mental stress of what you are going through worse. Don't worry about him he is where he should be, you have to concentrate on you and the baby now. Good luck and God Bless!
Im sorry you are going through all of this but the best thing you can do is remember its NOT YOUR FAULT. He is an adult and he makes bad choices. He may be bipolar and all and there is help but he has to want it first of all. Bipolar's are very impulsive and have highs and lows. Never a middle ground and he seems to have very poor coping skills and seems to be self medicating himself with alcohol. He needs to stay on his mood stabilizer and see a psychiatrist regularly to monitor how he is doing. Those meds wont help if he doesnt take them everyday for one either, so that may be your problem. There is a simple blood test to check and see if the level is therapeutic. Then the alcohol and the ambien which is also a downer, seems to me he is self medicating his problems and not dealing with them. He needs a lot of work and you have to tell him that he must get help and stick with it or else its over. If you stay with him and he continues to do this to not only the two of you but your baby to be.

Sit him down and tell him that he cant do this no more or you are leaving.

Just remember though, are you willing to put up with this. He will continue to have the same problems if he doesnt want to change and sadly it will bring you down.

Go get counseling for yourself and you should really consider if this is really what you want for you and your baby.

Im sorrry but this is a double sword here and seriously...he has to want help and want to stay clean.

Sometimes hitting bottom and losing everything (his family) is a wake up call but not always.

I wish you luck with him but take care of yourself no matter what the cost.